Fat Fish recently opened a new restaurant by me in Koreatown. The Koreatown location features rotating sushi. Basically the sushi chefs make their favorite dishes and put them on the conveyor belt that travels around the bar. I arrived reading a book we are planning to review called Boyfriend 101 by Jim Sullivan. When I say I show up reading it, I literally mean that I was walking down the sidewalk reading it. I’m finding it to be truly fascinating. Jim Sullivan is a psychologist and his dating book is perhaps the most well rounded and down-to-earth of any that I’ve seen. He talks about the importance of knowing what you’re looking for not only in a person but in a relationship. I’m reading “10 Myths About Dating” as I go for my first sushi dish.

I wanted something light to start with. I notice a delicious looking tempura roll and decide that it should come later in my meal. I grab some salmon and continue reading. Sullivan is now talking about the spectrum of gay daters. I enjoy several dishes while I read about “the closet case”, “dates infrequently”, “meets the wrong guys.” I’m wondering as I read who is at the top of this spectrum. Sullivan calls it — “the trouper”. Well, that’s encouraging. As I read though he explains that these are healthy daters. They date frequently and meet lots of terrific guys but are just waiting for the one who’s right. “Sometimes a bridesmaid, someday a bride,” he says. Wow! That’s me. I’m at the top of a spectrum.

I look up for the book. Now I want that tempura roll. Sadly, there are none on the conveyor belt. I continue to read, “Relationship Wants Versus Needs” all the while looking for my tempura roll. I drink my tea, and read my book and continue to enjoy myself until a half-hour passes. I looked up for the tempura roll and when I still didn’t see one it hit me! Just like in a relationship, I knew what I wanted but it wasn’t there. I knew it existed. It had been under my nose earlier but the timing was wrong. I waited for a half-hour and it didn’t come around but I enjoyed myself. Now, I know that tempura roll will be back. Maybe next time I go to Fat Fish, maybe the time after. But that tempura roll is out there, just like my next boyfriend.

Sushi and potential significant others really do have a lot in common.

Tags:Boyfriend 101, Fat Fish, Jim Sullivan, Koreatown

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Matt Falber is the Editor-in-Chief of Real Gay L.A. Matt was formerly an editorial assistant at Frontiers Magazine. He served as a regular contributing writer for Frontiers for two years and also wrote for IN Los Angeles, its sister publication. Matt has a flare for the arts and when we don't have him chained to his desk, he can be seen singing and acting in various L.A. venues.
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